Forgiveness can be a difficult word for some to accept. They ask, “How can I forgive that abuse, that cruelty, that unthinkable pain?”
What Is Forgiveness?
Forgiveness is not about forgetting the offenses of an abuser and what he or she did. It is not about making the person or circumstances less meaningful, less cruel, or less impactful.
Forgiveness is about Giving Yourself the Space to Heal. It is your willingness to let go of the past hurt. It is a journey of realization that there is no need to carry that deep internal pain. It is allowing yourself the desire to heal and realize a better future.
Wikipedia defines Forgiveness this way – “Forgiveness is the intentional and voluntary process by which a victim undergoes a change in feelings and attitude regarding an offense, lets go of negative emotions such as vengefulness, with an increased ability to wish the offender well.”
Willingness Is The First Step.
When you are willing to forgive, you allow goodness and bliss into your life. For anything new and positive to enter your life, you need to make space for it by letting go of the old and negative.
Take a deep breath and say there must be a bigger reason for what happened. The greatness within you today is largely because of the lessons you learned from the bruises and scars you acquired along the way. Your ability to more deeply relate to others, to love, to be compassionate, and to be caring were partially shaped by past pain and abuse.
Don’t let anyone break your spirit. Don’t let circumstances make you bitter. Some people react to unfairness by becoming resentful. Others learn from it and grow. An unwillingness to forgive leads to contempt and destroys any opportunity for your life to turn around and for you to truly be happy. A willingness to forgive allows the miracle to flourish. That willingness means opening your heart just enough for the light to enter and for the spirit to heal. And even though you won’t be healed overnight, you will start your journey on the path from a dry oasis to a new lavish land.